Relationships are messy, exciting, confusing, and, at times, full of absolute BS advice. Whether you’re deep in a long-term situationship or just starting to dip your toes into dating, chances are you’ve heard (or believed) a few relationship myths that could actually be doing more harm than good.

Let’s clear things up. Here are some of the biggest myths out there—and the real talk you need to hear.

🚩 MYTH: Happy Couples Never Argue

If you think arguing is a sign your relationship is doomed, think again. Disagreements are normal—even healthy. They show that you and your partner have your own opinions and that you're comfortable enough to express them.

The key? It’s about how you argue. Screaming matches and constant fights? 🚩 Red flag. But being able to have a calm, honest conversation—even when you don’t see eye to eye—is what actually makes relationships stronger.

🛑 MYTH: Couples in Serious Relationships Don’t Need to Use Condoms

Let’s get this straight: Condoms aren’t just about preventing pregnancy—they’re also good protection against STIs. Even if you fully trust your partner, you can’t always be 100% sure of their sexual health history. Plus, no birth control method is foolproof.

Using condoms isn’t about a lack of trust—it’s about making smart choices for your body and your health. It’s a power move, not a backup plan.

💬 MYTH: Being in a Relationship Means You Always Have Consent

This is a dangerous misconception. Just because you’re in a relationship—or even if you’ve had sex with someone before—doesn’t mean consent is automatic. Consent is an ongoing, enthusiastic, and active choice every time.

Being in a relationship doesn’t give anyone a free pass to assume their partner is always down. Your partner might not be in the mood, might not feel well, or might just not want to—and that’s valid.

Real intimacy isn’t about entitlement. It’s about mutual respect and checking in with each other. A simple “Are you feeling this?” or “Do you want to?” can make all the difference. Because the best kind of sex is the kind that both people genuinely want.

👀 MYTH: Feeling Attracted to Someone Else Means You’re a Bad Partner

Spoiler: You’re human. Being in a relationship doesn’t suddenly turn off your ability to find other people attractive. The difference is what you do with those feelings.

Attraction is normal—acting on it is a choice. A crush or a fleeting thought doesn’t mean you’re cheating. As long as you stay committed to your partner and your boundaries, you’re in the clear.

🔥 MYTH: Men Always Want More Sex than Women

Nope. Libido isn’t just about gender—it’s about the individual. There are guys with low sex drives and women with high ones. Sometimes your sex drive matches your partner’s; other times, one of you is more in the mood than the other.

What actually matters? Communication. If your sex life is out of sync, talking about it (without pressure or shame) is way more productive than buying into outdated stereotypes.

💡 MYTH: If They Really Loved You, They’d Just Know What You Want

Despite what rom-coms would have us believe, no one is a mind reader—not even your soulmate. Expecting your partner to automatically know what you need, whether it’s emotional support, physical affection, or a certain sexual preference, is setting both of you up for failure.

Healthy relationships thrive on communication, not assumptions. Want your partner to do something differently? Say it. Need more reassurance, space, or intimacy? Speak up. The right person wants to know how to love you better.

❌ MYTH: If You’re Not Having Sex All the Time, Something’s Wrong

Social media and pop culture have created this idea that healthy couples are constantly ripping each other’s clothes off. The reality? Sex drives fluctuate, life gets in the way, and different people have different needs.

A lack of sex isn’t always a sign of trouble—it could be stress, hormones, exhaustion, or just a natural lull. What matters is how you and your partner feel about it. If you’re both cool with it, it’s all good. If one of you is feeling disconnected, a conversation (not pressure) is the way forward.

Final Thoughts

Relationships aren’t one-size-fits-all, and a lot of the “rules” we’ve been told are straight-up myths. The real key to a solid relationship? Communication, trust, and being open to learning—because none of us have this completely figured out.

What’s the biggest relationship myth you’ve heard? Let’s debunk it together. ⬇️